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Why do we self-hate?  Why do we not accept the love of others?  It all speaks to self-esteem, and starting by learning how to love ourselves.

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The Science of Passionate Sex

"Our culture is obsessed with sex. Everywhere you look is another article on how to have hot sex, harder erections, mind-bending orgasms and ejaculations that go on for days. What people seldom realize, though—and which the latest science backs up—is that this is exactly the problem."

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Individual, CouplesSandy Marsh
Anxiety and Depression Medication List

A good overview of the medications prescribed for Anxiety and Depression and their side-effects.

"The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) states that an estimated 40 million adults suffer from one of the eight disorders within the anxiety spectrum.  In addition, depression impacts approximately 16 million, about 6.7% of the U.S. adult population."

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Turning Negative Thinkers Into Positive Ones

Some helpful tools/reminders toward the end of this piece, which you can put into practice.

“The results suggest that taking time to learn the skills to self-generate positive emotions can help us become healthier, more social, more resilient versions of ourselves,” Dr. Fredrickson reported in the National Institutes of Health monthly newsletter in 2015.

In other words, Dr. Davidson said, “well-being can be considered a life skill. If you practice, you can actually get better at it.” 

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Breathwork as a Treatment for Addiction?

What I take from this interview is that focusing on your breath, is helpful for so much of what ails us, including, but not limited to, addictions.  

"I got wind of an ex-addict doing breathwork with people at various rehabs with supposedly rave results. His name is Nathaniel V. Dust and he is not your typical hippie weirdo. Far from it. When I showed up at his house to sit down with him, he was wearing a pink tie, pink socks with the words “sock whore” and cats on them and a plaid suit jacket with a pink handkerchief peeking out of the pocket. Oh, and he has a mohawk."

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The Brain Mechanics of Rumination and Repetitive Thinking

The latest neuroscientific research on rumination and repetitive thinking helps us understand the brain mechanics of dwelling on negative thoughts.

"Do you ever find yourself stuck in a rut of repetitive thinking or an infinite loop of obsessive rumination in which you replay the same thought again, and again, and again? On the flip side, do you find that spurts of repetitive thinking are an important part of your creative process and that being "obsessed" with solving a riddle is essential to having "Eureka!" moments? I would answer "yes" to both questions."
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The Weight

Mardy Fish was a top 10 professional tennis player.  That is saying something.  His career would be judged exceptional, accomplished, and successful by any reasonable standard.  What he didn't have, or lost, during his "drive" to be his best, was perspective.  This is a courageous "sharing" by Mardy about his being overwhelmed by anxiety at seemingly the least probable time.   Mardy's is a classic case of putting blinders on and focusing intently on a goal (to be the best tennis player  he could possibly be).  In his moments of accruing success, higher standards (and deeper demons) manifested.  Finding, or maintaining perspective was not a priority.  Kudo's to Mr. Fish for having shared his experience.

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